Without meaning to, her dad screwed up her life until…
Most of my mom’s adult life was affected by her dad’s bitterness (his wife had left him to raise four kids on his own). She didn’t realize it, but her first two husbands were emotionally abusive, in a large part because her childhood taught her that it felt normal to be with an unhappy man.
At 60, she met Norman, but felt he was too “square” for her. When I asked her what “square” meant, she started to realize that “square” meant he was too nice, and deep down she didn’t feel she deserved to be with someone who was that nice.
Three months later, she and Norman were married and lived 20 of the happiest years of her life. He passed away recently of Esophageal Cancer. Almost every day since his death, she thinks of what a wonderful life she had with him.
How different could her life have been if she hadn’t realized how much of a prisoner she had become because of the way her dad (unintentionally) made her feel when she was young?
So… Have you ever thought about how your relationship with your dad has affected your life?
-Screwed you up?